Online Dating for Relationships

Grace (Registered User) Sat, 2010-02-06 10:29

Hello there,

I wanted to throw some ideas out in the open that formed the basis for this serious relationship dating site.

Exclusive dating - a long term relationship

I am of the opinion, that in most situations people want a long term serious relationship when they are going out on a date. Yes it is for fun and having a good time, but it is also subconsciously an attempt to be on the hunt for a life partner and a soul mate. The final stage is usually a serious relationship sometimes leading to marriage.

Online Dating Industry Trend

Online Dating has really made the process more efficient in getting to a select group of individuals based on visual/looks (photo is must on your profile) and your stats. That is why online dating is doing well as an industry because it does work, although far from perfect.

One of the recent trends in the online dating industry has been the double digit increase in the growth rate of the casual dating market. Serious relationship dating is an exact opposite of that. While dating sites that promote "Friends with Benefits", "No Strings attached (NSA)" or "extra-marital affairs" are on the extreme end of it, speed dating, hook-ups, fling finder type sites have increasingly raised the bar for those who are looking for a serious relationship.

Dating with an honest intention. No Games, No Players.

Upto about a certain age most may not mind being players, which is casually dating and having sex without any intention of getting together for a long term relationship. But as people get of age, which for some it could be as early as in their early 20's, they are in search of their life partner. The objective of serious exclusive dating may not be stated at the outset for obvious reasons. No one wants to feel pressured when they barely even know each other.

In my mind, this is exactly the point where a problem is also introduced. The problem is this : At some point after initial introductions, Person A is thinking: "I will date and be intimate with Person B but I do not see person B as my long-term soul mate". Person B thinks: "I see someone in Person A who I would love to get to know and spend time with for the rest of my life if everything falls into place". Basically in this situation one person is getting played upon. While Person B is engaging in an honest effort to explore long term potential, person A has already made up his / her mind. But neither one of them knows this situation. Although Person A may have a hint that he or she is on a power play, he/she will choose not to dwell on it to save their conscience.

A pledge

With this site, I am hoping to explicitly bring out the pledge in the open that if you are signing up as a member here, you are indeed looking for a long term relationship. When you fill out the registration form to become a member, the only option for dating objective is: "Long Term Relationship". As long as you are exploring possibilities with that idea in mind, you are welcome here. Hopefully this site serves the purpose for many who are looking for long-term relationships.

With that said, take your next step towards a positive dating experience.

-Co-Founder of NOTforPlayers™.com.